HOW TO INCREASE YOUR DESIRE - Tips and tricks to awaken your libido - Boutique Toi Et Moi

HOW TO INCREASE YOUR DESIRE - Tips and tricks to awaken your libido


Dear reader,

Here's a subject that comes up frequently in the LOVE Shop. I'll try to tackle it today in its entirety and bring, as I always try to do, a little inspiration and light to the subject...

Rest assured that your secrets are well kept, but that your questions are a great help to me in always surpassing myself in accompanying and listening, as I often find myself perfecting my knowledge so as to be better equipped for the next people who come to the LOVE Shop and who are experiencing the same worries or similar challenges. Thank you very much for this great trust.

In this first Blog, I'd like to tackle the question of how to awaken the libido.

I'm often asked how to increase libido, whether it's to increase one's own libido or to stimulate one's partner's sexual desire. It's quite a challenge every time, especially when the question arises for someone else ...

Fortunately, there are many avenues to explore. In our hectic modern world, maintaining a high libido can sometimes be a complex matter indeed. Whether you're a man or a woman, solo or in a duo, or identify as LGBTQ, everyone faces their own challenges that can sometimes affect our desire.

The tools available in the field of positive sexuality are numerous (yes, I'm referring to the sex toys and other products available in the LOVE Shop when talking about tools). Some have even been developed by doctors to meet the needs of both men and women. We're a long way from battery-powered devices that made more noise than pleasure, and sticky lotions with rather toxic tastes that caused nausea :))

It's important to note that men's desires are often described as impulsive, while women's need to stimulate their imagination to get the desire flowing. So here are a few tips for each of you.


Take some time for yourself: Put yourself at the top of the "to do" list by treating yourself to moments of rejuvenation. A walk in nature, a hot bath, some personal care to pamper your body. As the saying goes, "Take care of your body so that your soul wants to stay in it". Gently and intentionally run your hands over every part of your body with a warmed oil or scented cream. Feel the kindness of your touch and take your time.

Put on some silky lingerie, dare a sensual read now and then, watch an erotic film to awaken your senses, listen to music that thrills you or simply enjoy a few moments of silence to reduce stress, get out of your head and quietly connect to your body and all your senses.

When you close the bedroom door, leave your responsibilities outside. Let your mind wander freely and find that inner space where there's a whole world reserved for your imagination.

Feminine energy thrives on creativity. Marvel every day, keep your mind young, laugh and, why not, keep a diary of creativity and gratitude.

Physical exercise: Regular physical activity can boost your self-confidence, improve your mood and even stimulate your sexual appetite. Why not try disciplines such as yoga or dance, which will also enable you to connect with your body, improve your flexibility and fluidity, while promoting optimal mental health?

If you experience a drop in libido, it may be linked to stagnant blood circulation. Increase your water intake and get moving!

Women of all ages can consider a consultation for hormone therapy, and consult their doctor regularly to ensure their physical balance.

Above all, treat yourself with a great deal of self-love and indulgence.

Did you know that raw cocoa powder has aphrodisiac properties? Treat yourself to coconut milk or chocolate mousse from time to time. Eat a varied, healthy diet that's low in fat and sugar.

Erotic toys :

Femme Fontaine activates local blood circulation to the clitoris and G-spot. I highly recommend it, and many of our customers regularly come back for more.

Of course, erotic toys have the power to awaken desire and introduce you to new sensations of pleasure. Once you've tasted the pleasure, you'll want to relive the experience more often ;)

The tool par excellence recommended by the LOVE Shop is the Womanizer Original. In fact, this is the world's best-selling suction technology for women. It was invented by a doctor in Germany who found that 50% of women never reach orgasm through penetration alone. The clitoris, with some 8,000 nerve endings, can be stimulated by the Womanizer Original during foreplay, and can be used ergonomically when penetrating a toy or partner.

Womanizer Original has the power to bring multiple orgasms to women, without penetration. For those who wish to reach orgasmic heights and climb high, even very high in orgasm, the Womanizer Premium has been developed to stimulate female orgasm up to 14 times.

What was the question again? How to awaken your libido and increase your desire?! ;)

Gentlemen :

Diet and exercise : A balanced diet and regular physical activity are essential for maintaining a high libido. Zinc-rich foods such as oysters and nuts, as well as exercise such as weight training, can help boost the production of testosterone, a key male libido hormone.

Stress management : Stress can have a significant impact on the male libido. So it's essential to find ways to relax and unwind, whether through meditation, reading or simply a walk in nature.

Erotic toys : Toys aren't just for women. We offer several products, such as Fleshlight, the best-selling toy for men all over the world, to practice and develop endurance, or to meet other needs such as faster ejaculation. In fact, these two opposing needs can easily be met by choosing the right Fleshlight.

Our range of erotic toys for men also includes masturbators and vibrating rings to satisfy your most impulsive desires. Have you heard of prostate stimulators? They can greatly help arouse male desire and even help you discover prostatic orgasms. We live in an age when sexuality is directly linked to health. We encourage prostate stimulation at all ages!

Vector We-Vibe is a renowned and widely appreciated prostate stimulator. It is ideal for beginners, as it stimulates only the prostate area. By deeply massaging the entire perineum area, it prepares the body to relax and experience new sensations. You can combine it with the Wicked gel for easy insertion, delivering a most pleasurable experience from the very first uses. Everything is managed from the hand-held remote control or even the We-Vibe app on your cell phone, allowing you to take control of your pleasure, Sir.


For couples :

Communication : Communication is key to a healthy and fulfilling libido in a couple's relationship. Express your desires, preferences and limits to your partner in an honest and respectful way. Don't be afraid to explore new dimensions of pleasure together. Our boutique offers a range of toys and accessories that can help you in this quest.

Women like to feel desired, and this is often how sexual desire is born. Find out what pleases your partner, and repeat these actions regularly. She needs to feel considered, noticed and complimented. When was the last time you gave her flowers or fine lingerie?

And what turns Monsieur on? Active listening at the end of the day, taking an interest in how he's been feeling. A warm oil massage, a surprising blow job (our organic or scented massage oils and our Croque-Monsieur will be your perfect allies).

Time alone and as a couple: It's important for every couple to set aside time for each other, without distractions or interruptions. Whether it's a romantic evening at home, a romantic outing or a joint activity, these special moments help to strengthen your complicity and intimacy. It's also beneficial to set aside time alone to refocus and take care of yourself, which can enrich your relationship as a couple and boost your libido.

Be patient and indulgent with each other, and try to stay calm and centered. Tomorrow will bring a whole new energy. What didn't work out today may have a whole new look tomorrow.

On that note, I'd like to thank you for your careful reading and let you know that our mission is to accompany you on your journey of discovery and sexual fulfillment. Please feel free to visit us in our charming boutique for personalized advice and to see for yourself the products, many of which are available as samples for testing.

Otherwise, our online store is slowly coming to life. Here you can discover LOVE Shop favorites as well as the latest novelties. You'll also be delighted by our wide selection of fine and sexy lingerie or fetish wear. Customers are always impressed and surprised by the wide variety of lingerie in all sizes, from XS to 4XL. You can try on the items and leave with a WoW feeling every time!

You can also consider hosting an evening with friends at home and benefit from generous gifts as host. These evenings can be between girlfriends or for men. Even consider hosting a mixer, where the laughter and exchanges are sure to prove that, as human beings, we all share the same similarities!

We look forward to serving you, always respecting your wishes and well-being!

On behalf of myself and the entire Boutique Toi et Moi team,
Take good care of yourself and your sensuality 💋♥️

It's a date here early next month,

Your Love Coach, Natalie

  • METC® Certified Helping Relationship Professional
  • Speaker - Self-love, wounds and femininity components
  • Certified massage therapist, hydrotherapist
  • Dedicated co-owner of Boutique Toi et Moi since November 2021

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